So, our little first-born angel, E.A., is 3 years old. She turned 3 in the middle of December. We have been somewhat potty training since she was about 2. And by “somewhat,” I mean we bought the potty seat (3 of them, in fact), bought the books, talked about “pee-pee” and “poop”, sat her on the potty, occasionally used it for its intended purpose, and attempted some bribery with stickers. So we decided that Potty Training Boot Camp began January 1. We had tried pull-ups but she just went in those like she did in her diaper. We were pretty sure she was ready because she was showing several signs of readiness, which I will not bore you with by listing them all here. And we (actually I) had read “The No-Cry Potty-Training Solution” by Elizabeth Pantley (who has several books, all of which I recommend). Our potty-training methods, however, are not entirely from her book, but we did borrow a few ideas.
So January 1: panties. Yep, that’s right, we jumped in feet first. Not just panties, my friends; panties with plastic diaper covers. She figured out real quick that these were in no way like her diapers or pull-ups. Thus began the battle of the wills. For 10 days (yes, TEN DAYS!!) she absolutely refused to sit on the potty. Pee, poop, didn’t matter. She was doin’ it in her panties. At home, at MDO (God bless her very patient teachers!!), NO POTTY!! And then, it happened. She started sitting on the potty. The struggle was far from over but she started sitting on the potty and getting a nice little (wrapped) present every time she used it for its intended purpose. She did pretty well for awhile and we even left the plastic diaper covers off for a few days. But she was still having poop accidents so we would leave her in her pull-up in the mornings for MDO then when she poops, she gets panties.
So here we are 4 months or so later and she still has pee accidents and absolutely NEVER poops on the potty. She even screams and cries when we ask/make her sit on the potty at home. At “school” (MDO) she goes all the time and only has poop accidents. So here’s my question to all those moms out there: what else can we do to get her to go on the potty all the time? I know I should probably know this, but is this normal? She’s a very smart and willful child; is this a control issue? (then again, what isn’t a control issue to a preschooler?) We bought and are awaiting the arrival of the book “Everyone Poops” because I have been told this is a good aide for getting her to poop on the potty. Any other suggestions? I’m open.